Perhaps you know someone who is sure of themselves and seems in command of their life. They are ambitious, driven, and get things done. Sometimes being liked is important to them, sometimes they would rather be feared. What is important is that they get things done their way.
For them, life is a battle, and winning is essential. They will strategize, evaluate, and take calculated risks. Sometimes they get the results they want, sometimes not, but they usually have a plan. Teamwork is important as far as achieving a goal is concerned. However, competition rather than cooperation is a driving force in the group dynamic. Rather than instilling confidence and a sense of safety, they intimidate. You are either with them or against them.
They can be mean, vindictive, and quick to anger. They may be pushy and take advantage of people. When they sense weakness in another person they see an opportunity to dominate. They can be physically, mentally, or emotionally abusive. While other people may be hurt by their unkind words or actions, they justify their greed, selfishness, manipulation, or brutality as necessary. They will fight to be right, and collateral damage is the price of winning the war.
Sometimes perceived as selfish or vain, their focus is on themselves. They may eat well, exercise, and take care of their physical appearance because it’s important to them to be strong, and to be perceived as powerful. Active engagement in community is not important to them unless it furthers their interests. The driving question that motivates their actions is, “what’s in it for me?”
The strong and uncaring person can have many guises. Sometimes they are puritanical or self-righteous in their religious beliefs or fanatical about their political views. They fight for their ideas at the expense of their relationships. They use shaming, guilt, coercion, condemnation, or shunning in order to force someone to agree with them. In this, they behave as a tyrant and victimizer. They lack empathy for the plight of others and their version of love is conditional. While they may protect what matters to them, it is often out of a sense of possessiveness or ownership, especially of their children or spouses.
Another form of the strong and uncaring person is the con man, seductress/seducer, interfering busy-body, or gossip. They may speak sentimental words to convince a person of their thoughtfulness and love. They might use flattery, gifts, or money to endeavor to gain trust. However, they prey on weaknesses of others to gain power over them. This is not real love.
To come into balance, those who are behaving primarily from this quadrant would be wise to care more for others and to deepen their sense of empathy and compassion. For example, they could volunteer for organizations that serve those less fortunate or practice meditation so that they can experience the interconnectedness of life. They need to find ways to recognize and appreciate the value of the lives of others, and use their strength to raise others up.