Yes, our parental guidelines are simple: Love, patience and acceptance.

Remember that “love covers a multitude of sins.” And, “love is patient.” Also, acceptance of another’s view, even when you disagree, shows respect for them.

Can you step back far enough to untwist from the “power struggle” that you have co-created together from your arguments? This tension wreaks havoc in any relationship. The very act of trying to change another’s opinion, or way of being, is a sign that self-righteousness is in play here. This is not a loving behavior that invites cooperation.

Instead, are you willing to release your judgements against your husband and allow him to choose for himself how he personally wishes to treat his daughter? With that said, are you able to stand firm in your own resolve to bring up your child in the best way you know how?

Whether you stay together, or live separate lives, the raising of your child is of utmost importance. What do you want her to learn from you?

Children are resilient, especially when they feel loved and accepted. Can you teach her to be loving towards others, accepting of other people’s differing views, while making up her own mind as to what is right for her? This will help her to mature more gracefully.

Are you willing to be patient with the whole process? Communicating your desires in a loving way can help ease tensions. Patience is wisdom in action. Acceptance shows respect for another. And, love fills in the gaps.